By Guy Lawrence
A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to hang out with self made millionaire and best-selling author Jamie McIntyre and his team at 21stCentury Academy. They were holding a four-day seminar in the neighborhood, so I decided I’d help out.
Jamie McIntyre has a pretty unique story. In his early twenties, he started a telecommunications company in Sydney. It didn’t work out quite like he envisioned and found himself in over $200,000 worth of debt, sleeping on a mates couch, with no company.
If you found yourself in this position, what would you do at this point?
Jamie McIntyre decided to acquire mentors who were successful and living the life he could only dream of. What’s interesting is when one mentor hi-lighted to him that if he could set up a company and end up with over $200,000 in debt at his youthful age, he must be a unique individual, because how many people do you know have done that?
These mentors were able to reinforce the positives his situation produced. If he continued to focus on everything that went wrong and the circumstances that resulted, would that have served him and changed his situation over the long term?
When I’m in a difficult situation no matter the size I quite often find, it’s easy to get caught up in the day to day stuff and if things aren’t going my way, before I know it, I’m dragging my heals every where I go, and when I stop to think, I’m digging a hole staring at the floor!
What’s the solution?
Usually these days I turn to exercise to get the blood flowing and let off some steam. This strategy creates short term success and influences a positive mindset to tackle the situation with clear perspective and only look at the situation for what it is, no more or no less.
A few other methods I’ve tried are:
Get blind drunk, but of course this comes with a small repercussion the next day in the shape of a hangover. Not only are you dragging your heals the next day, you usually feel like your head’s about to disintegrate and you have about enough energy to change channels with the remote control. This method is not one of my favourites, but defiantly a popular one with many.
There’s travel. Leave our worries behind so to speak. But with this technique I’ve found the environment changes, but not the thinking, so this never really helped. Even if you do unwind a little, it’s all still there for you when you get back – reality sets in. Traveling works best for me when its mission accomplished, and the mind is free for travel and to be in the moment.
And of course, there’s the ostrich head burying approach, but if you read my last post, you all know what happens there.
I asked Jamie McIntyre what he would say to anyone who was looking to enhance their life in any area -
These have been Jamie McItyres key points:
All the amount of complaining didn’t resolve Jamie’s problem. It got people feeling sorry for him, but that was it. His mentor got him to begin to focus on what he could be grateful for on a daily basis. He was made him write it down and every morning when he woke up, Jamie had to read it, so he would begin to change his daily thinking.
Jamie McIntyre said he found this really difficult at first because of his circumstances, but did it anyway and soon found his thinking began to change.
So begin to focus on what you can be grateful for in your life. It all begins from being in a place of appreciation, starting with your self.
To help bring gratitude into your life, get some contrast. If you find your self complaining about your job, not earning enough money, or getting frustrated waiting in a queue etc it’s time to get some perspective. Go traveling and spend a month in a third world country, they’d do anything to be in your shoes right now.
Embrace failure – Don’t be fearful
Most people are fearful of failing. If we get stuck in the middle and don’t even try, we don’t lose anything, but rest assured we don’t gain anything either. Your best learning experiences are when you’re in amongst it all having a go. Ask yourself what’s truly the worst thing that could happen?
If Jamie McIntyre’s first company hadn’t failed and left him in over $200,000 of dept, he admits he probably wouldn’t be where he is today and 21st Century Academy would never have got off the ground. After that huge learning experience, he could have rolled over and accepted it wasn’t meant to be, however he chose to learn from it, re-adjusted his approach and kept going.
If you’re failing, you’re learning. So keep learning, keep re-adjusting until you get it right.
Choose your companionships wisely
If you do something that is perceived as different, people will either judge you or encourage you. Keep yourself around people who encourage. Life is a gift and your time is extremely valuable, so don’t waste it. So spend less time if you can with anyone who holds you back from what you want to achieve in life. It’s all much more enjoyable when you’re around like minded people taking you forward.
So whether your in $200,000 worth of debt or 20kgs over weight, whatever your problems life is dealing you, Jamie McIntyre and his team at 21st Century Academy are great proof that there is something remarkable in us all if we want to turn things around 180 degrees.